Editorial Review:
Robinson says that well-intended behaviour is essential to a humane society, but carries a down side. Being nice often means we take on too much, tell little lies, strive endlessly for perfection, and fall prey to self-defeating behaviours. Now Robinson outlines the nine unconscious mistakes nice people make daily, and shows how to correct them and avoid unnecessary stress with life-affirming actions.
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Customer Reviews
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a MUST read!!!!  2008-12-02
This book helped me achieve the more well rounded balance I was looking for in my life by addressing and helping me work on the other things I didn't even realize I was doing!!! Namely #7 and #8!!!! My whole life I've been striving to BE a nice person. I didn't realize how detrimental being SO nice was until I found myself overwhelmed and spread way too thin. I knew learning to say no was an active process that would help me achieve the balance between being nice and still having something left for me, but I found myself in a sort of tug of war--and then I found this book!!!!
Possibly the most helpful book I've ever read 2008-11-28
Maybe it's just that I needed this book. But several others to whom I've given or suggested copies have reacted as I have. The book mercilessly and accurately analyzes self-defeating habits, so there's no running away. And specific, easy suggestions for change are provided. "Easy" doesn't mean emotionally easy. One really has to want to change. "Easy" means it's no problem understanding what one must do to change. I've made so many changes already. And my life is so much better for it. One person thought the book was about co-dependence. I think the book is far wider ranging than that. I don't yet know exactly how to characterize this book, but if you want to change your behavior in some profound way and are really serious about it, this book may be exactly what you need.
New Meaning to "Self Help" 2008-02-02
I was given this book by a friend who knows that I often get myself into the women who do too much syndrome. What a gift! Duke gets to the core and doesn't mess around with the inconsequential. He is specific and never trite. My book club is considering it for discussion; it's that thoughtful!
Speaks to Everyone 2008-02-01
Duke Robinson offers lessons learned over decades of effective ministry. In language that eliminates religious jargon, he speaks in an inclusive way about the role grace and truth can play in our lives. In our family, there is a wide spectrum of personalities and religious orientations and of no orientation at all. We have given copies of TOO NICE to all of them, confident that it will speak to them where they are and add a dimension of richness to their lives.
What an amazing book 2008-01-27
I had to find a way to say "no" to someone, and a friend lent me her copy. I am forever indebted to her because it happened after I finished reading this marvelous book. The information in it has enabled me to stop talking in counterproductive ways and doing several things I always did because I wanted to be nice...and to be seen as nice. It was so engrossing I purchased 10 copies for myself, my five children (all over 35 years of age) and four friends. The practical changes in my behavior have improved my relationships and made me enjoy myself a gread deal more. Chuck, San Francisco Bay Area
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